Ask For What You Want (Read Time: 2 min.)

I meet so many people who are afraid to ask for what they want (what they REALLY want).  Whether it's fear of rejection or fear of disapproval, they allow some sort of fear to keep them from requesting what is their right to request. 



When I coach, I hear clients subtly ask for permission to do a lot of things like:

• get rest
• take time off
• own their feelings
• speak their truth
• live their lives
• change jobs
• admit they hate something someone else is doing

And the list goes on...

But here's the deal: 

Not owning your power to choose 

means you're giving that power away.

Any power you won't reveal, other people will have no problem trying to steal.  When we don't use our power, we end up giving it away.

How have you given away your power to others?  

Sometimes we give away power by not speaking up.  At other times, we give away power by revealing too much.  The key to speaking the truth and asking to have your needs met is one thing:

TRUST YOURSELF...

Your inner knowing is keenly aware of what boundary conversations you need to have and when, what truths you need to speak and why, what requests you need to make and how to meet those needs COMPLETELY.  But if you don't trust that, you doubt it... and your doubt brings you to a place of fear.

Take a powerful step: 

Start asking for what you want without fear of reprisal.  

Start speaking your truth to others and stop worrying about whether they like it.

Begin to create a life where you speak what's real for you because that's the only way you know how to live.

Let go of the misconception that being "nice" is worth more than being real.  

How many "nice" people do you remember?  

At the end of the day, follow the words of Don Miguel Ruiz in The Four Agreements: 

"Ask for what you want.  Everyone has the right to tell you yes or no but you always have the right to ask."

Yes... you do.